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Детская психология: ребенок не адаптируется к детскому саду
На почту мне пришел очень непростой вопрос от мамы мальчика,
который с большим трудом ходит в детский сад, часто болеет. Наш детский
психолог особенно внимательно подошла к
проблеме этой семьи, ребенок действительно, страдает! Детская психология
сложный и нежный механизм, без специалиста родителям порой трудно
разобраться. Обязательно прочитайте рекомендации детского психолога,
возможно, они помогут и вам лучше понимать вашего ребенка:
Вопрос: Добрый день! Моему ребенку 4 года, мы
стали ходить в детский сад в 1г. 10мес. У ребенка плохой иммунитет, мы
постоянно болели и продолжаем болеть. У нас есть подозрение на
бронхиальную астму, мы сейчас обследуемся, т.к. часто болел бронхитом
обструктивным. Мы ходим мах 10 дней, и 2-3 недели болеем. Летом не
болеем вообще, за 4 месяца он не болел ни разу.
В этом году пошли 15 сентября, отходили неделю и заболели на 2
недели. Потом вышли на 4 дня и у ребенка началась рвота в детском саду, с
промежутками в 2-3 дня. Мы сдали все анализы, сделали узи желудка, все
ок. Выяснили что ребенка пичкали едой насильно. Мы воспитателям
высказали, чтоб не кормили насильно.
Появилась новая проблема, ребенок перед детским садом хочет
какать уже 3 дня подряд, даже если дома только что сходил. Я думаю на
нервной почве. Их заставляют самих вытирать попу, а мой ребенок
переживает, что плохо вытрет. У нас закончилась бумага, воспитатель дала
ему чужую и сказала: – не рви много,чужая ведь. Дома я его приучаю
самому вытирать.
Ребенок не хочет ходить в детский сад, он комплексует, боится что
его будут ругать, что он не так что-нибудь сделает. Воспитатели на мою
просьбу помочь ему адаптироваться после лета не прилагают никаких
усилий. Каждое утро он плачет и просит меня подождать, когда он
покакает. Ребенок очень переживает, а они списывают это на адаптацию к
детскому саду. Подскажите как помочь моему ребенку адаптироваться и реже
болеть.
Ответ детского психолога: Здравствуйте! В Вашем
случае думаю, что следует уже говорить не об адаптации ребенка к
детскому садику, а о последствиях плохой адаптации (или скорее
дезадаптации). Частые заболевания (в том числе и ОРЗ и простой насморк) в
вашем случае скорее психосоматические, т.е. основная причина – психологические проблемы.
Если не решить эти проблемы, то заболевания будут продолжаться и
усложняться. Появление таких симптомов, как рвота и желание покакать
говорит, что в настоящее время проблемы серьезные (так можно и до
невроза дойти). Весь организм ребенка уже просто кричит – мне плохо,
помогите мне!!! Детский сад для ребенка сейчас уже является
стресс-фактором, который запускает весь механизм проблем. Врачи и
таблетки в данном случае не являются единственным способом решения
проблемы – вы устраняете симптомы, а не причину.
Обязательно, просто необходимо обратиться к детскому психологу. Ребенку необходима психологическая помощь, работа с психологом. Если в детском саде вам согласны помочь и поработать с ребенком – хорошо. Если нет – ищите другого детского психолога и идите за помощью.
Воспитатели и заведующая в лучшем случае будут соглашаться с вами и
делать то, что для них не сложно. В наших детских садах много детей, и
воспитатели не нацелены на индивидуальный подход, особенно со сложным
ребенком. Проявляйте активность сами. Вам сейчас очень трудно, вы очень
устали, много переживаний и хлопот, но вашему сыну еще сложнее – он
маленький и беззащитный в этом сложном окружающем мире. Постарайтесь
собрать все свои силы, всю свою любовь и вместе с походами к врачам и
детским психологам находите время, чтобы дарить своему сынишке нежность,
заботу, минуты ласки и любви. Он в этом сейчас так нуждается.
Не откладывайте поход к детскому психологу. Напишите мне,
как пойдут ваши дела, если будут еще вопросы. Я постараюсь ответить вам
быстро.
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England grouped in a circle, as hopes of Olympic qualification for Team GB died with England’s exit from the Nations League. Only the top two European sides and France as hosts will be at Paris 2024.
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England looked to have done enough when Lucy Bronze’s late header capped a 6-0 victory against Scotland after 90 minutes of playing leapfrog with the Netherlands at the top of League A Group 1. But Damaris Egurrola’s 95th-minute goal for the Dutch earned them a 4-0 win minutes after England’s game had ended.
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England grouped in a circle, as hopes of Olympic qualification for Team GB died with England’s exit from the Nations League. Only the top two European sides and France as hosts will be at Paris 2024.
“We were waiting for some long minutes, and we really thought we got it, and then we didn’t make it,” the manager said. “I said I didn’t know what to say. All I could say was I’m really proud of our performance and what we did this whole week. But it’s not enough and it’s really, really disappointing.”
On whether there was a small silver lining in England’s players getting a summer off and some much-needed rest in an increasingly packed calendar, Wiegman said: “Well, you want to go to every major tournament. The career of a football player is only a certain amount of time, so if you can play every major tournament of course every player wants that. In the bigger picture, we have to look at the calendar.
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England grouped in a circle, as hopes of Olympic qualification for Team GB died with England’s exit from the Nations League. Only the top two European sides and France as hosts will be at Paris 2024.
“We were waiting for some long minutes, and we really thought we got it, and then we didn’t make it,” the manager said. “I said I didn’t know what to say. All I could say was I’m really proud of our performance and what we did this whole week. But it’s not enough and it’s really, really disappointing.”
On whether there was a small silver lining in England’s players getting a summer off and some much-needed rest in an increasingly packed calendar, Wiegman said: “Well, you want to go to every major tournament. The career of a football player is only a certain amount of time, so if you can play every major tournament of course every player wants that. In the bigger picture, we have to look at the calendar.
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England looked to have done enough when Lucy Bronze’s late header capped a 6-0 victory against Scotland after 90 minutes of playing leapfrog with the Netherlands at the top of League A Group 1. But Damaris Egurrola’s 95th-minute goal for the Dutch earned them a 4-0 win minutes after England’s game had ended.
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England grouped in a circle, as hopes of Olympic qualification for Team GB died with England’s exit from the Nations League. Only the top two European sides and France as hosts will be at Paris 2024.
“We were waiting for some long minutes, and we really thought we got it, and then we didn’t make it,” the manager said. “I said I didn’t know what to say. All I could say was I’m really proud of our performance and what we did this whole week. But it’s not enough and it’s really, really disappointing.”
On whether there was a small silver lining in England’s players getting a summer off and some much-needed rest in an increasingly packed calendar, Wiegman said: “Well, you want to go to every major tournament. The career of a football player is only a certain amount of time, so if you can play every major tournament of course every player wants that. In the bigger picture, we have to look at the calendar.
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England looked to have done enough when Lucy Bronze’s late header capped a 6-0 victory against Scotland after 90 minutes of playing leapfrog with the Netherlands at the top of League A Group 1. But Damaris Egurrola’s 95th-minute goal for the Dutch earned them a 4-0 win minutes after England’s game had ended.
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England grouped in a circle, as hopes of Olympic qualification for Team GB died with England’s exit from the Nations League. Only the top two European sides and France as hosts will be at Paris 2024.
“We were waiting for some long minutes, and we really thought we got it, and then we didn’t make it,” the manager said. “I said I didn’t know what to say. All I could say was I’m really proud of our performance and what we did this whole week. But it’s not enough and it’s really, really disappointing.”
On whether there was a small silver lining in England’s players getting a summer off and some much-needed rest in an increasingly packed calendar, Wiegman said: “Well, you want to go to every major tournament. The career of a football player is only a certain amount of time, so if you can play every major tournament of course every player wants that. In the bigger picture, we have to look at the calendar.
Eddie Jones says rugby fans are frustrated by fussy officiating and stop-start games which he believes is having a negative effect on crowd behaviour. The Australia head coach has been booed repeatedly at the World Cup when his face appears on the big screen and he is concerned that rugby’s values of fairness and tolerance are being eroded. <a href=bs2webes-cc.com>bs2web </a> This has not been an easy tournament for Jones, whose side must wait until this weekend for their pool qualification fate to be decided. Disappointing defeats by Fiji and Wales mean Australia will likely fail to make the knockout stages for the first time but Jones says the sport’s authorities also need to consider the bigger picture.
Wallabies head coach Eddie Jones is relying on Portugal beating Fiji to salvage Australia’s disastrous Rugby World Cup campaign. Clock ticks with Eddie Jones and Wallabies in Rugby World Cup purgatory Read more “The way the game is being refereed is causing crowd problems,” Jones said in the wake of his side’s 34-14 win against Portugal. “I am of the firm opinion that we are destroying the flow of the game. We have got so many stoppages now … we had a TMO for everything.
